As a man and as a husband it’s your duty to protect your wife’s heart, not to break it. Don’t hurt your wife in these silent ways:
1. You spend more time with your friends than with her
I encourage you to spend time with your friends. Having good friends that you can rely on is extremely important. However, you are not married to your friends. You are married to your wife and you should give her the feeling that she’s the most important person in your life – because she should be. Nobody wants to feel like the second choice, especially not the woman who loves you more than anyone else.
2. You check out other women
Your wife wants to be your queen. She wants you look at her and think “I married the most beautiful woman in the world”. What do you communicate when you check out other women? You basically say that you desire other women more than you desire her. Your wife wants to be desired, loved and appreciated. She wants to be your number one. Think about how much you hurt her before you allow your eyes to wander.
3. You rather look at your smartphone than at her
You are getting older and your wife is getting older too. You might not know it, but one of your wife’s biggest fear is losing her beauty. A woman’s perception of her own beauty is directly correlated with her self-esteem. I’m sure you want a confident wife who feels beautiful. Good. Then show her how beautiful she is. You don’t have to say a word. Just look at her with a cheeky smile and give her a kiss. Stop staring at your smartphone and appreciate your wife. She deserves it.
4. You don’t see that she’s suffering
Let’s imagine for a second that you only talk about yourself, spend more time with your friends than with her, and you haven’t had an intimate moment in weeks. She’s worried that you are not attracted to her anymore. She’s scared that you don’t care anymore. That’s bad, but you could still rescue the situation. Being aware of her suffering and reacting appropriately is your last chance to save this sinking ship.